“He perceived with a flash of chilling insight that in the future many problems would be thus negatively solved for him; but as he paid the hansom and followed his wife’s long train into the house he took refuge in the comforting platitude that the first six months were always the most difficult in marriage. “After that I suppose we shall have pretty nearly finished rubbing off each other’s angles.” he reflected; but the worst of it was that May’s pressure was already bearing on the very angles whose sharpness he most wanted to keep.”
This is a quote from my most recent book club read, The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton. This book, published in 1920, is set in the 1870’s amongst New York’s wealthy upper class. It is a sharp commentary on society at the time and the things that make up a marriage, both from the external social perspective and from behind closed doors. This book won a Pulitzer Prize in 1921, the first Pulitzer Prize ever to be awarded to a woman.
Dave and I are pretty lucky to have had a good start to our marriage. So we got evicted, what of it? That might have ruined us socially in 1870’s New York, but is not so important to making a marriage really work. That being said, put any two people who have made a commitment before God to love and honor each other all the days of their lives under the same roof, and they are going to try to correct some of those sharp angles that they see in each other.
So what are your keys to marital happiness? Did you get to keep any of the “very angles whose sharpness you most wanted to keep”?